Self-confidence is an important life skill that you should maintain even when people turn their backs on you. People who rely on others to cheer them on when they feel hopeless can find themselves ill-prepared for the challenges they face when bad things happen. Sometimes, those bad things are self-imposed, like when you’re trying to achieve a personal goal.
James Altucher is a prolific writer. After succeeding and failing in several businesses, he accelerated his personal growth and can tell you a lot about becoming a better person. If you read all of his blogs, there’s one piece of advice he repeats over and over again: improve yourself 1% every day.
If you do some math, improving 1% every day means you’ll improve 100% after 70 days. This applies to anything you want to do: fitness, intelligence, emotional health, and self-confidence. The question is: What can you do daily to double your confidence in 70 days? Here are 3 suggestions:
1. Talk to someone new every day.
Humans are social creatures. Bad habits, like playing computer games every day, can make us antisocial. We look for solutions to gain confidence when the answer is right in front of us: each other. Many of us feel
We act like we’re alone even when we’re surrounded by people, but how many of us actually try to connect with others?
We’re afraid of not being accepted, so we don’t communicate. We don’t communicate because we have low self-esteem. However, in this case, the antidote to low self-esteem is to drink the cup of poison and face that rejection. Every time we interact with someone, we can be hurt. You might think we are weird, but imagine talking to a new person every day for 70 days... Your confidence will definitely increase every day.
2. Learn to say no.
Our society is built on agreements. We all want to be happy and make sure our relationships with the people around us are compatible. Unfortunately, this does not help you at all when it comes to growth. Inconsistencies, while relatively painful, force people to listen to you. They also force you to think about what you want and why you want them.
Saying "no" does not necessarily mean that you are inconsistent. In fact, it means that you are attentive and careful. You listen to what the other person has to say and suggest something else that might be more appropriate. The problem with saying "no" is that some people are afraid of it.
As you change your mind about this, over time you will become more confident and able to disagree with someone gently and calmly. Over time this will lead you to become a more caring and considerate person that people respect.
3. Practice writing online
Everyone has a way of expressing themselves. Some people prefer to talk to healers, others prefer to write. Many writers are perfectionists. What ends up happening is that they get so caught up in their quest for perfection that they don’t develop their art of expression well. This makes their content seem artificial, implausible and unbelievable when you read it.
Confidence comes from being yourself. Online writing is no exception to this rule. Many bloggers today simply started writing words and converting them into normal speech years ago. In other words, in a place where everyone is trying to be perfect, it’s interesting to note that natural conversation is the most reliable type of conversation. Write every day for 70 days on sites like Lifehack.org that have a large audience and you’ll be amazed at how confident you’ll feel.
Do you have any other suggestions? What helps you feel safe?
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